“Trust in the Lord with all your heart. And lean not upon your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him and he will direct your path” Proverbs 3:5-6
It is sad that I had to learn the hard way. Growing up in a christian family , I have been told so many times to pray for my life partner. Funny enough I have been in relationships but never really prayed about it.
There came a time when I was just tired of it all. The lies, the pain, the disappointment and the end result being fruitless. I felt that my heart was in crumbs, there was nothing to break nomore.
I had to focus on healing and telling God that you know what, I thought I was clever but I think I have just had it you need to take the wheel.
So let me share with you I got to understand this norm of “a relationship without God is not a relationship at all”. At first I thought it was all about praying to God that he brings my dark, tall and handsome , established, God fearing man and many other qualities my way.
But was I ready for that typpa man and secondly was I compatible to that man?I was so busy trying to get my God ordained partner but was I the God ordained partner God meant for that special man.
I then realised that it had to be all about me and my God first before it had to be me and bae. Like one of the ladies in my circle puts it regarding her own relationship :
“I didn’t have a Solomon Eureka moment where I would claim to have heard God say ‘this is bone of your bone flesh of your flesh’… I guess I could say I simply focused on my relationship with God and like he says ‘seek ye first the kingdom of God’ and everything will fall into place.It’s not easy. You’re always a step away from second guessing your decision”. Tariro Anifasi
Before we all start asking God to bring “the one” our way, make sure you are ready. The moment you have that intimate relationship with God then it makes it all easier.
You will not get lost because you have him guiding your every step. So even if he doesn’t say it in an audible voice that he or she is the one, when your partner does come your way the decision won’t be one led only by emotions.
He will give you assurance. As a couple you both should have a dynamic walk with God prior to marriage individually. The man so that he can be the spiritual leader of his family and the lady a helper. God prepared Adam for marriage through His personal relationship with Adam—before He provided Eve as a helpmate.
When you both are focusing on your relationship with God, you will be able to stay away from temptations and help each other not deviate from the path God wants you to take. I am still trying to get the hang of everything and I hope all you waiting and praying for that partner do it the right way.
I would rather have a man chasing after Jesus than a house full of stuff .Elizabeth:War room