#HealingAugust :Dealing With Your Past Mistakes

If only this thing called life came with a manual then surely members of the human race would practice every day till they finally get the hang of it. This would then mean that there wouldn’t be any mistakes , no wrong turns as the navigation would be right in our faces.

Sadly , one can never get the hang of life so despite the good, one is prone to make mistakes and make bad and super bad decisions that they have to live with for the rest if their life.

Living with the guilt, embarrassment or shame of your past mistakes is like walking with a back pack filled with rocks. On top of it hurting your shoulders it simply slows you down.

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As we get older we carry regrets, shame and remorse about things we’ve done and things we’ve failed to do. You might think you are the only person with a secret stash of shame about past actions but take comfort in knowing everyone has done things they regret.

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In dealing with your mistakes you need to acknowledge your actions without excuses or justification.
You need to acknowledge that you did what you did, whatever it might be. You did it. Not some impostor or evil twin. Stop ignoring it or denying your participation in your actions.

If you did someone wrong , go to them and apologise for whatever it is that you did. If you had some crazy phase lol and you made mistakes and stuff you regret please remember this you can’t change it.

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But you can learn from it and put it upon yourself that you do not repeat the same mistake. Take it as a learning curve. It is essential to express painful feelings and get them out of your system and process hurts, disappointments, embarrassment and grief. Crying is healing and so is writing or talking so choose what works for you.

Even after apologising to someone ,you also need to forgive yourself. Use mental discipline to accept that it has happened and that no amount of wishing will change it. Stop tormenting yourself by churning over the painful event. Choose to forget it. Make a conscious choice to let go of regret and shame.

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Stay away from people who make you feel bad for your bad decisions or who make you relive your own mistakes. Rewrite or breakdown the events leading to the mistake. Write down how you would do it differently next time. This affirms to your subconscious mind that you have learned from the situation and if you had the tools you have now back then, things wouldn’t have worked out as they did.

You can then create a clear visualization in your mind of your new creation. This is how we learn not to repeat mistakes. You made them and that’s okay, we all do. It will take me the whole day to talk about my mistakes and that’s a story for another day. But acknowledge it and forgive you.

Share in the comments section your experience with living with past mistakes and regrets.

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5 thoughts on “#HealingAugust :Dealing With Your Past Mistakes

  1. I really like this post. It is hard for me sometimes to deal with my past mistakes. It’s hard sometimes to accept that I did something wrong. But I came across this Bible passage and wanted to share it with people. It is at 1 John 1:8, it says: “ If we make the statement, “We have no sin,” we are misleading ourselves and the truth is not in us.” What do you think this means?

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    1. If you are a man or woman of faith this verse for me goes to show that we are prone to sin but nonetheless God is gracious..Its okay and the creator sure is a gracious and forgiving God.never beat yourself up about it because even Paul used to kill christians but he turned out just fine right

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      1. Thanks for your thought on the subject. But, do you think we should admit our mistakes? And if so what are the advantages to tell other people?

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      2. Telling other peple about our mistakes cab be in the form of an apology or confession and usually it will also set you free.. Admitting our mistakes can also help the individual deal with the past and also mak sure they are not going the same route.It can also help the next person know that i also made that misyake before but i got over it

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      3. I agree! And I have learned people will trust You more if you will admit your mistakes immediately. Proverbs 28:13 says: “The one covering over his transgressions will not succeed,
        But whoever confesses and abandons them will be shown mercy.” What do you think this scripture means?

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