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“They say the most powerful relationship you will have, is the one you have with yourself. Be kind to yourself.” – Steve Maraboli This is just one of the many cute quotes that I’ve probably seen on the internet, in books and sometimes even on some board in one of my favorite restaurants about being kind to myself but the girl surely still has a … Continue reading I wish I could grant myself a little bit of grace
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Children are a blessing from God, so why would he take them away? I may not be a mother, but being an aunt is just as special. Having nieces and nephews gained me a new title which I love and carry with so much pride. If things had gone according to my plans and if my will and love for these little gorgeous human beings … Continue reading Forever in my heart
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Do not ask me where I am coming from or going with this but let’s go on a trip, maybe just a coffee date sip on some hot black liquid and see if we can fall in love or maybe talk about the number of times you fell in love. After stories of beautiful and dazzling princesses saved in castles by the Adonis of Disneyworld … Continue reading So the deal is one true love for everyone?
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In this life, I believe that we have two types of families that is one’s biological family or blood relations and the chosen family. Our blood relations are the ones who can be all kinds of mess and annoying but we can never shake it off or even change it. Well thanks to technology we can block and delete but even when their calls are … Continue reading Yes blood is thicker, but have you tried smoothies?
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So many people I know have a love-hate relationship with this country we call home. One day you wake up minding your own business and super patriotic then the few individuals who run this teapot country just hit you with a blow which can send you looking for the next best country to migrate to. There are two types of Zimbabweans migrating overseas. The academics … Continue reading Why are you still in Zimbabwe?
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If you are part of the “People who commit suicide are cowards” squad then this post is not for you. I’m glad that where I come from mental health issues are not considered as much of a taboo as back in the day. Back in the day these issues were usually rubbished and families and loved ones had to deal with the aftermath. Whatever you … Continue reading We all can do better
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There are so many things that went right in the previous year and do not get me wrong, I am a very grateful girl. Just as my chakras seemingly aligned for the greater part of the year, I was dealt a crazy hand and the stakes were against me. It was not a gamble but a clear loss. I know we are at the end … Continue reading It’s been bad vibes over here
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This is my first blog post after a very long time. Life happened, pain, loss, mistakes, heartache and top that up with a psycho ex-boyfriend who had and probably still is stalking me. He would put vile and negative comments on my old blog posts even on my about page. I was just caught up in all of that drama, such that I ran out … Continue reading I just found out my parents are human too
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Despite the colourful graffiti on the walls and the hive of activity at the Matapi and Chishawasha flats, one can testify that the buildings have seen better years. Situated about 5 kilometres in the south of the central business district of Harare, Mbare is one of the oldest high-density suburbs in Zimbabwe. The flats are famous for their dilapidated state, the poor sanitation which often … Continue reading The case of the Mbare hostels decades after independence
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When you are on the other side of the fence, one is always wondering why a victim of abuse always goes back to the abuser. On so many occasions victims of domestic violence are beaten to a pulp and you would swear they are ready to press charges and walk away from their abuser before they are in a body bag. Sadly in most cases, … Continue reading Understanding a trauma bond
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There is a reason I do not watch rom-coms and all of that fairy-tale stuff. I do not hate and best believe I still believe in love but on so many days I am just here sitting and wondering what exactly my happily ever after would look like. My problem with fairy tales is that there has to be some messed up incidents or seasons … Continue reading My happily ever after
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As I was reflecting on my year, I realised that it would have been so much fun to sit say around a fire and have different people from all walks of life share their own experience on how the year went, but well distance, time, and Covid19. I reached out to a few friends and colleagues to share how the year went by. I am … Continue reading Chapter 12/12: Reflections with Zimbo Son
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If I was to describe the year with one word or phrase it would definitely be ‘’UNEXPECTED’’. I do not really remember how my year started but I definitely know that the rest of it was a whirlwind, tornado, storm with some calm days in the mix. Do not worry this is not going to be a post where I am going to tell you … Continue reading 365/365 Lord your girl is grateful
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I am a sucker for books and here is some free piece of advice, never watch a movie or series after having read the book. Rather pick one and stick to it, but sadly I know we usually read the books and watch the visuals as they come way after. After reading The smart money woman by Arese Ugwu, I realized the many money mistakes … Continue reading Five lessons from ‘The smart money woman’.
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So many are desperate to be in love, to love and to be loved back that they end up making some mistakes or holding on to a certain high that will soon fade. Loves takes many shapes and forms but if one is either desperate or not careful, they could be manipulated all in the name of love. This also can be caused by the … Continue reading Manipulation can feel a lot like love
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I have heard the ‘you are being too hard on yourself’ chorus for way too long and on some days it really does not help. Ever been in a position where you are just there and every single second of the day the guilt fills you up. I have been wondering if maybe I am gaslighting myself or if I just need to own up … Continue reading Struggling with my mistakes
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It sounds so cliché to say that relationships are a lot of work but for them to work and for the parties involved to be fulfilled or satisfied it does take not just work but a bunch load of it. A romantic relationship involves individuals who are all different and have their own expectations. These are individuals whose behavior has been shaped by different experiences … Continue reading Maybe you are not ready for a relationship
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After years of watching paternity court with my mom, we finally got to watch a local version of it and my oh my should I say, the world we live in is just a mess. To live everyday of your life not sure if the child you are taking care of, or nurturing is yours is something I would not wish on anyone. To be … Continue reading The Closure DNA show is such a noble idea, but….
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As human beings it is only normal to expect those around you or those you care about, to care and treat you with just the same level of respect and care. The sad reality of it all is that, not everything in life turns out as expected and, in the end, people are hurt and disappointed. It is hard to not expect, and it is … Continue reading Stop looking for yourself in other people
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Cheating husbands are the worst creatures to ever walk on the surface of this earth. They are malicious and cunning but sadly their prey always fall for it. From the claims of being sexually starved to those of staying only for their kids, they will go as far as it takes to convince their victims that they are just not the other woman but they … Continue reading The tales & lies married men tell
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There are so many things in this world that really tick me off. They tick me off such that I want to just strangle the person or literally feel my blood boiling. Some of my pet peeves are silly according to my mom but I mean. So a bunch of my pet peeves are not even criminal behavior, yes some of it I feel is … Continue reading My five pet peeves
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On so many days one gets so used to the pain, heartache that at the end of the day it seems it is all there is to life. When one gets so used to the pain and hurt, they can never imagine the world any different. Not because it can not be different but because they have gotten used to their view of the world … Continue reading When you are holding on, yet God is saying something else
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In 2018, for the first time. I shared a post sharing how I battled with depression, anxiety and suicide ideation. This was years after I had gotten out of the dark hole of depression, anxiety and two suicide attempts. Sharing the story was definitely not one of the easiest things I had to do, but I am glad I did. The feedback I got from … Continue reading September is suicide prevention month
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I have seen videos of the main piece confronting the side piece and some sisters of friends recording the ordeal. I have stories of women who the got arrested after these assaults. I have a million questions in my head but then again what do I know, I have never had a husband cheat on me so I probably should not judge these women for … Continue reading It is not her problem but your man’s sis
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I thought I was the Miss Independent who was all about taking care of herself, but I had to learn otherwise. I was not Miss Independent but a young girl who had been disappointed by so many people and had people who I expected to pull through not pulling through and at the end of it all I programmed my mind in a certain way. … Continue reading Maybe your extreme independence is coming from a place of hurt
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We were in love and even with the distance factor, our relationship seemed to be thriving. I was happy and content even through the fights and misunderstandings. It is weird when I talk about it now and tell people that I was in a relationship with someone who was on a different continent and who I only got to see for only three months out … Continue reading When they move on from you to your friend
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They say his way are not our ways and his plans are not our plans, but as humans it is only normal to have some goals and a set plan for one’s life. We can not live this life without a certain picture be it clear or not of how we would want it to turn out. But sadly, it does not always happen according … Continue reading I am not sure how much patience a christian needs to have
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According to a report in 2017 in Zimbabwe, 32% of girls are married off before age 18 4% are married before they turn 15. Approximately 1 in 3 girls in Zimbabwe are married before age 18.As I read the article of the 14-year-old girl Memory Machaya who died while giving birth I cringed and at the same time was super annoyed. The article alleged that the … Continue reading #JusticeForMemory: Am I the only one who is PISSED?
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I have never had a child and neither have I ever been pregnant, but I have seen the joy that comes with the announcement of a pregnancy for many people. I have seen the joy that comes with one holding their little one for the very first time and every other first that comes is met with just the same joy. From the first time … Continue reading To the babies we never got to hold and the rainbow babies who warm our hearts
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Ever had siblings talk differently about their parents. You can have the one who feared their parents and one who will tell you their parents were just sweethearts, and they were best friends. I will not get into the details about the relationship each of my siblings has or had with our parents, but I can tell you that our experience was different. My experience … Continue reading Siblings can experience parents differently
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Substance abuse is a worm which has eaten its way into our society destroying so many lives, relationships and dreams. With the pandemic at hand and an economic downturn which seems to be getting worse so many young people in Zimbabwe are turning to substance abuse to numb the pain and the stress that comes with being young in the country. Back in the day … Continue reading When you are not the addict but struggling to stay sane
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Every time I say that my parents have a beautiful relationship and I would want to have what they have , a bunch of the comments that come from those listening are pretty negative. There are those who claim that I am only say that because I am on the other side of the fence and have no idea what they went through for the … Continue reading Umjolo: The Pandemic my generation created
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I was born on Sunday the first of August 1993 and this year my birthday once again falls on a Sunday, talk about a full circle. With everything that has been happening especially the pandemic at hand, I am grateful to have made it this far. I can testify that indeed, it is not by power nor by might, knowledge, or wisdom but by the … Continue reading Chapter 28 better be kind to me
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I remember being curled up in my bed trying to make sense of what was going on around me. It was a fruitless effort as in that moment nothing made any sense. I wanted to think of all the things about you, about us that made me happy, but it seemed they were drowning in the shadow of the pain I was feeling in my … Continue reading My heartbreak anniversary
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After the steamy and erotic scenes in almost every episode, we are not shocked the Sarah Shahi (Billy) and Adam Demos (Brad) fell in love while filming the Netflix hit ‘Sex Life’. Inspired by B.B Easton’s self-published memoir ‘’44 Chapters about 4 Men’’ the limited series took social media by storm and even became a catalyst getting Easton’s memoir sitting pretty on number 1 on … Continue reading Sex Life has me confused: Is the goal marriage or happiness?
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I got a visit from the red devil (my period) just a few days before starting high school and I was 12. We were having a prayer meeting at my parent’s house and I felt my panties getting a little too moist , so the girl had to go to the bathroom only to find her panties soiled. For a minute I sat on the … Continue reading I had the worst period talk
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The phrase history repeats itself is true when it comes to fashion. There are some outfits and fashion accessories that have been worn since the start of the new millennium which were worn in the 80’s or even way before that. The fashion was slightly revamped but the ideas definitely go back in time. The 80’s were characterized with the neon and super bold colors, … Continue reading WinterABC Day16 : The 80’s are back baby
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First day of the Fashion week and what better way to start it that try clear the air on whether boyfriend jeans and mom jeans. At some point in my life I thought that these retro styles were the same just different names but we learn everyday. I am sure many are aware of the skinny, regular and slim fit. Mom jeans and boyfriend jeans … Continue reading WinterABC Day15: Are mom jeans & boyfriend jeans the same?
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Ever bumped into a ”what I ordered versus what I got ” picture on social media? Some of the pictures are rather exaggerated and all but best believe sometimes one does not always get what they ordered. This has been the case for me after ordering a few things on line. What sucks about online shopping is that one does not get to see or … Continue reading WinterABC Day13: I’m still skeptical of online shopping
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Pineapple Creative Studio I love dance and fitness and with Pineapple Creative Studio I get to have a service provider who is offering both in one stable. You get to pick the service you want . Pineapple Creative Studio offers exclusive dance and fitness classes. At first it was all for women but then a few men joined the band wagon. I was there from … Continue reading WinterABC Day12: Five local businesses whose services are worth your buck
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I never thought that we would still be talking about the novel Corona virus, a year later since it was first discovered in China. I actually was part of the crowd that for a moment thought that the pandemic was really not going to hit Africa but here we are with figures not as high as our European and Asian counterparts but the whole world … Continue reading WinterABC Day11: Technology & doing business with a pandemic at hand
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Ever wanted to buy something or even attend a seminar or conference, but after interaction with the service provider you are like ‘’I will pass.’’ Such is the norm with so many local service providers who have a product to die for, but their customer service makes you reconsider if you really want the product that bad. Many Zimbabwean companies are yet to master the … Continue reading WinterABC Day10:Of amazing products and crappy customer service
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At some point in my life last year, I was reconsidering my career path and these sentiments had nothing to do with how much I make monthly or annually but rather more of the experience. As today is the last day of the advocacy week of the WinterABC Challenge why not share on another topic that is again close to my heart. Journalism is a … Continue reading WinterABC Day9 : Journalism is not a crime
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If I am to be a mother at some point my only worry is being either obsessive or overprotective of my children. I used to hear and read stories of child brides and child prostitution till I saw it with my own eyes. To say I was disturbed is an understatement as the stories I heard and what I saw will forever be with me. … Continue reading WinterABC Day 8: Stop undressing our girls
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I will really try to not let my feelings get the best of me as this is a topic that makes me cringe, want to throw up and at the same time it just drains my god damn energy. I usually walk away from the debates on the issue as in a way, it shows the prevalence of rape culture where I come from and … Continue reading WinterABC Day 7: Clothes ain’t got nothing to do with rape, but the rapist.
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It is the second day of the advocacy week, and I am super excited to share my advocacy pieces on mental health. After going through depression and anxiety without knowing what it was, I always make it a point to let people in on my experience and help them understand that it is possible to get out of that dark space and hoping to get … Continue reading WinterABC Day 6: Why we need therapists in schools
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A decade ago, I tried to take my own life but only talked about it for the very first time in a blog post I published in 2018. Despite talking to the people who read my blog post and once having an Instagram live talking about it, it has been over a decade since it happened but we have never had the conversation as a … Continue reading WinterABC Day5 : Ten years later we still haven’t about talked suicide
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Where I come from those in power are afraid of two things, the voice of the citizens and the pen. Why these scare them I will never know but clearly, they are aware of their sins and know that the pain and the citizens will be their fall one day. Hence over the years and worse during the wake of the pandemic many journalists have … Continue reading WinterABC Day4: Local creatives using satire and for activism
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I have always been the girl who dances a lot if there is good music playing, I mean I do not let a good track go to waste. I have always been passionate about dance even a young kid but never thought of making any money from it till the day I met a lady who is now one of my closest friends. I met … Continue reading WinterABC Day 2: My experience in the dance industry
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