Life had taken a drastic turn with me steering it of course but I do not think that after attempting to take my own life I was ready for what was to come next. Like I shared in the very first blog post where I shared my story, I really wanted to talk about it… Continue reading Life after a suicide attempt
After years of fighting and hating each other we had to have the uncomfortable conversation. My body and I sat down for a girl talk , I let her tell me how she felt about everything and what had to change and this is what she had to say…… Tell me you love me, even… Continue reading I wanna be loved
So, you have broken up with him and as much as it hurts you feel you deserved better and walking away was you respecting and loving yourself, well done boo. Now you are a prominent member of the singletons club but still willing to dive back into the waters but you scared what happened in… Continue reading Don’t just break up with him, break the pattern
Over the past few years, I have been drawn to mental health issues as it is something that is out there and something I personally experienced. I shared my attempted suicide story for the very first time on my blog some two years back. The idea was to help me heal, forgive myself and move… Continue reading My experience with the Wired 2 Love and Thrive tribe
The pandemic came and now we are still learning how to live with it. It disrupted our way of life and religion was not left out as gatherings in places of worship were banned in most countries. Where I come from this was then changed and people can now meet in their places of worship… Continue reading Lessons from the pandemic: You are the church
There are people who simply drain the energy out of you and this could be by the way they talk, how they act around you and even the things they say to. These are the people that one must ignore be it it's a phone call, chat or a request to visit or hang out.… Continue reading People avoid you because you are draining
Whoever thought in Zimbabwe we would have families burying their loved ones after 24 hours and one would need a letter to go to a funeral. With ''Rona'' on our backs we have to adjust to a lot of things and the new norm is somehow a nightmare in certain aspects. I lost my other… Continue reading Mourning and grief with the pandemic at hand
It started off in China and not in a day did we ever think that the pandemic would soon be upon us. In Zimbabwe the first recorded case of Covid-19 was recorded in March this year and before we even knew it the country was on lock-down. This meant restricted movement and we could not… Continue reading Ideas on celebrations under lock-down
Financial literacy is not a luxury, but a necessity and one of the very important lessons many need to grasp so they can pass them to the younger generations who will later pass on and on as the cycle continues. While many view the world of finance as intimidating with all the terms which sound… Continue reading Why financial literacy is important
Relationships are a great part of the human life and as much as the dynamics are different I believe there are certain aspects that should never be overlooked. In today's blog post I will focus on the boyfriend and girlfriend type of relationship and the dynamics surrounding it. I know the title probably made you… Continue reading Four reasons why you do not own your relationship
Many will go all the way 100 to show or prove their loyalty and this has given rise to the trend known as inheriting beef. Inheriting beef is guided by a commandment from some friendship code published God knows where which states that ''my friend's enemy is my enemy.'' So if your friend is not… Continue reading The hate you give: Inheriting your friend’s beef
Not a day passes without tweets and pictures and hashtags to do with supporting local businesses and supporting our friends. This is a good movement as we do not support local businesses then who do we expect to do that for us. As much as people can preach and spread this gospel of supporting local… Continue reading Of supporting local businesses and bad customer services in Zimbabwe
I have always dreaded going for a wax and I blame it all on the movies and how they make it so graphic with a grown man screaming like they just got stabbed in the tummy. Those pictures are what always came to mind every single time I thought of getting a wax. Years have… Continue reading I survived a Hollywood wax, next stop child birth
The stories of the armed struggle and the transition from Rhodesia to Zimbabwe are forever spoken of with so much emotionEven for a bunch of us tagged ''born frees'' tears and feelings of pain surface when we read books of the atrocities by the Smith regime. The inhuman things that our ancestors were put through… Continue reading Oh cursed is the tree Mbuya Nehanda was hanging from
There are days when I wake up and I can not stand social media. Not because of the trolls or the pressure that comes from the cute couples and the young people buying cars and all but because it is just a sad place. One day you wake up to the news of abducted people,… Continue reading Being Zimbabwean: I am TIRED!!!!
With most company offices of non-essential service providers closed down or opening for a few employees a number of people have been working from home and this comes with its challenges. Working from home is a totally different set-up from the office and one is prone to so many destructions as you are trying to… Continue reading Being your best parent and work version during lockdown
It was my birthday yesterday, and as I thanked God for another year added I remembered the families who lost their loved ones two years ago and still no one seems to be paying for those crimes. While they woke up and saw the Zimbabwean sun rising over the horizon and felt its warmth as… Continue reading People always die on my birthday
When I was born, I am sure the moment the nurses handed my tiny frame to my mom, who then also handed me to my dad , they both were in awe. I mean a fourth child lol, was obviously different from the other three (every child definitely comes out different) they could not help… Continue reading What’s in a name?
Our names carry with them our identity and for some they also tell a certain story. When I was younger I never understood the women who would mention two last names when they were introducing themselves. I finally learnt that they had what is called a double barrel surname. Some believe that marriage confirms oneness… Continue reading #AskYourMcm : Should she change to your last name?
Like how an elephant can smell water miles and miles away, I can smell the apologies.I can smell the ''I should not have done that''I can smell the ''I never meant to hurt you'' even before you give it to meI can taste the ''This will be the last time'' as you always serve it… Continue reading Roses are so cliché
Do you know , when I close my eyes all I see is you, us , happy and even when you are far I can still smell you and taste you on my lips?Your presence gives me a certain type of glow and my lips widen into a goofy smile, do you notice?Like Meddy sang,… Continue reading When I close my eyes , all I see is you
With all the madness and chaos happening in Zimbabwe, I am starting to think that maybe I chose the wrong profession. What really drove me to pursue a career in the media fraternity when I could have just been smiling at the camera wearing clothes made someone, make-up done by someone else, the lights and… Continue reading The crime we never committed: Being a journalist in Zimbabwe
While it is all over the media and every other place we urn to, the church has decided to not talk about sex. When they do talk about sex they condemn the act but the somehow miss the fact that sex is not really such a bad thing. Sex is even in the bible ,… Continue reading Did the church tell you sex is good too?
The debate on whether one should have friends of the opposite sex is a topic that we will talk about even when we have our own kids and they will be seeking advise on it from us. Opinions on this topic differ but I must say many people are okay with having friends of the… Continue reading #AskYourMcm : Is your partner allowed friends of the opposite sex?
So the ''rona'' which started in China in the Wuhan province in December 2019 is till doing the rounds and according to experts it is here to stay. Or maybe it will finally tire and leave but I don't know when that will be. So in Zimbabwe we started off with the Level 5 lockdown… Continue reading After 108 days of the Lock-down i’m still sane
I know they say that sex and scandal sells but I was shocked as to how much people all over the world invested their time and attention to Jada and Will Smith's Red Table Talk. The Facebook Watch original series hit a record 15 million views in 24 hours and now sits on over 30… Continue reading Izinto zama ”entanglements” and the Red Table
So many times we have the conversation of the ''Dead-beat-dad'' and barely talk about the broken mothers. I know broken is too deep an adjective to use , but I have seen how most of these women go about their motherhood journey and I have concluded that although they might look like they have it… Continue reading The broken mom’s club
Many relationships ended and despite having a lot to say or wanting to say a whole lotta things somehow it all goes unsaid. Some of it does not necessarily go unsaid but after the relationship in the middle of healing, moving on and closure there are certain elements which can come to play and some… Continue reading A couple of letters to the exes
With the pandemic at hand so much has been disrupted but not everything has been lost and we still have hope that the storm will pass and the sun will shine probably with a rainbow and some unicorns at the end. I know on social media we have the hashtag #Chooseday trending on a Tuesday… Continue reading I choose to celebrate even the small victories
Today's blog post is a topic that I am sure almost every single person who will go through this blog has experienced : LOSS/GRIEF.I don't even know how many messages of people losing their loved ones I received this year and what's worse is the idea of mourning with a pandemic at hand considering our… Continue reading Day 16: I don’t know if I should be grateful or happy
Today's blog post is probably the one that I enjoyed writing about the most , although yes I did enjoy reading all of the other posts. It's been an uphill climb trying to be consistent and keep up with the challenge but here we are on day 15 and the challenge is to write on… Continue reading Day 15 : I can talk about mental health everyday
When I first went through the topic list for the WinterABC challenge and saw the topic " Share about one cultural aspect from your country or community" , the first thing that came to my mind was lobola / roora (bride price). I remembered I have written a few posts on the topic and maybe… Continue reading Day 14 : The new bride has some duties
I had no idea who Gayton McKenzie was till I stole a book from my brother's house, "The Hustler's Bible" and I must say it was an eye opener and reading a success story which was closer to home made quite the difference as it was someone telling the African story and I could relate.… Continue reading Day 13 : I really want to meet Gayton McKenzie
When I first read through the list of topics that we have for the Afrobloggers WinterAbc Challenge, in my head I told myself that would probably be one of the easiest topics of the challenge. But here I am trying to decide which of the proverbs I have heard and learnt would help me share… Continue reading Day 11 : Proverbs my Khulu taught me
When one is a brand ambassador, in layman terms, they are the ''face'' of the brand. We can not talk about the Dark and Lovely Hair care line and not talk about Kelly Rowland. So being brand ambassador means making use of your already established networks and relationships to market the brand. This could be… Continue reading Day 10 : Scotch the brand ambassador
Over the years we have moved from Mixit, BBM and just Facebook to a number of other social media platforms. With the pandemic at hand , we find ourselves at home and being on social media for quite some time. There are times when I just find myself simply scrolling down on social media hitting… Continue reading Day 9 : Four social media accounts I follow
Not developing your own style or voice So many times we complain about not having the African story being told yet we have the opportunity to tell our stories to the world every single time we sit down to type something on our laptops. One should not write the way a certain blogger writes but… Continue reading Day 8 : Three things African content creators can avoid
When I started blogging, it was because a friend of mine had told me about it and I had found an outlet. I did not even know that there were so many Zimbabwean bloggers within the blogging community till I started scrolling on WordPress and I found different types of bloggers. The ones who blog… Continue reading Day 7 : Something about the bloggers from where I come from
Today is Day 6 of the Afrobloggers WinterAbc Challenge and I must say today’s topic which sounded rather easy has made me think about social media in a different light. Social media has done the world so much good and at the same time it has also been able to destroy a number of lives… Continue reading Day 6 : Zimbabwean Twitter is not for the faint-hearted
Today is Day 8 of the 30 Things You Need To Change and today’s topic is GRATITUDE In a world where everything simply seems to be going wrong, with wars and pandemics disrupting the world as we once knew it, you might just find everything wrong. It is then hard to find a reason to… Continue reading An attitude of gratitude keeps you sane.
When having a conversation, at certain intervals there has to be one speaking and the other listening. Sadly for a number of us we want to be heard but we barely want to listen and this in a way has affected us on so many levels. Mastering the art of listening also means that one… Continue reading The idea of listening sounds complicated
Day 7 #30 Things You Need To Change : Apologising So many relationships and business partnerships ended when one could not just get themself to say ''I am SORRY''. Just these three words can mend a broken relationship and heal a broken heart but they do not come easy nnowadays. Hence so many people although… Continue reading Do apologies serve a useful purpose
Today is day 5 of the 30 THINGS YOU NEED TO CHANGE BLOGGING CHALLENGE. I missed the other four days of the challenge but I have decided to commit today and will be here till day 30. This challenge is something I really need as it also in a way is a self-introspection journey.I can… Continue reading Day 5 I really need to start spoiling the body that works
I was scratching my head and trying to figure out which local delicacy I actually fancy and now I was out here trying to figure out if the meals I love are actually local food. After figuring out and convincing myself that it was indeed local delicacy I then had to find English names so… Continue reading Day 3: My favorite local food
When I started blogging it was an outlet for my dear soul which struggles to share or show emotions. It was also a way of dealing with my own demons and gosh forgive me but the consistency never happened but I am glad when I did write and post on my blog ,I would share… Continue reading Day 2: Do we blog for fun or there is an end goal
I promise that I will do my best to do my duty to God. To serve my country and other people to keep the girl guide/brownie law. I remember making this pledge as a little girl in a brown uniform and gosh was I super excited. The journey was however fun and at the same… Continue reading Day 1 : The Introduction Pledge
I thought I had my fair share of the battle of living in a navy blue society while looking pretty in pink, but all I can say is for the few decades I have been on this earth, I have seen how it is tough being a man in these streets. Don't get me wrong,… Continue reading Are boys allowed to cry?
On the last post we shared how the bereavement process after losing someone to suicide is challenging as it is so sudden and people are left hurt with so many questions. In our society there is so much superstition surrounding suicide that the bereaved do not even know who turn to for help. Here are… Continue reading Losing a loved one to suicide (2)
For a while the rising of the sun and the sounds of the birds chirping in the morning never brought a smile to my face it rather drained all the life out of me. If I had a choice I would have stayed in bed all day but well I had to get up ,… Continue reading Mental well being in May
Saying the term in my vernacular sends shivers down my spine as I feel I am shouting out the worst profanity in the world. There has always been a debate whether the practice of the elongation of the labia minora is regarded as female genital mutilation (FGM). Wether it's female genital mutilation or not is… Continue reading #AskYourMcm: Elongation of the labia minora from a man’s perspective
Life has this thing of throwing curve balls at us and sometimes the curve balls hit us on the most sensitive places that we are left in so much pain. The great men and women of faith are tested on so many levels and if you are not careful on the worst days you could… Continue reading After all the bull, Job never cursed God