As I was reflecting on my year, I realised that it would have been so much fun to sit say around a fire and have different people from all walks of life share their own experience on how the year went, but well distance, time, and Covid19. I reached out to a few friends and colleagues to share how the year went by. I am … Continue reading Chapter 12/12: Reflections with Zimbo Son
If I was to describe the year with one word or phrase it would definitely be ‘’UNEXPECTED’’. I do not really remember how my year started but I definitely know that the rest of it was a whirlwind, tornado, storm with some calm days in the mix. Do not worry this is not going to be a post where I am going to tell you … Continue reading 365/365 Lord your girl is grateful
I am a sucker for books and here is some free piece of advice, never watch a movie or series after having read the book. Rather pick one and stick to it, but sadly I know we usually read the books and watch the visuals as they come way after. After reading The smart money woman by Arese Ugwu, I realized the many money mistakes … Continue reading Five lessons from ‘The smart money woman’.
So many are desperate to be in love, to love and to be loved back that they end up making some mistakes or holding on to a certain high that will soon fade. Loves takes many shapes and forms but if one is either desperate or not careful, they could be manipulated all in the name of love. This also can be caused by the … Continue reading Manipulation can feel a lot like love
I have heard the ‘you are being too hard on yourself’ chorus for way too long and on some days it really does not help. Ever been in a position where you are just there and every single second of the day the guilt fills you up. I have been wondering if maybe I am gaslighting myself or if I just need to own up … Continue reading Struggling with my mistakes
It sounds so cliché to say that relationships are a lot of work but for them to work and for the parties involved to be fulfilled or satisfied it does take not just work but a bunch load of it. A romantic relationship involves individuals who are all different and have their own expectations. These are individuals whose behavior has been shaped by different experiences … Continue reading Maybe you are not ready for a relationship
After years of watching paternity court with my mom, we finally got to watch a local version of it and my oh my should I say, the world we live in is just a mess. To live everyday of your life not sure if the child you are taking care of, or nurturing is yours is something I would not wish on anyone. To be … Continue reading The Closure DNA show is such a noble idea, but….
As human beings it is only normal to expect those around you or those you care about, to care and treat you with just the same level of respect and care. The sad reality of it all is that, not everything in life turns out as expected and, in the end, people are hurt and disappointed. It is hard to not expect, and it is … Continue reading Stop looking for yourself in other people
Cheating husbands are the worst creatures to ever walk on the surface of this earth. They are malicious and cunning but sadly their prey always fall for it. From the claims of being sexually starved to those of staying only for their kids, they will go as far as it takes to convince their victims that they are just not the other woman but they … Continue reading The tales & lies married men tell
There are so many things in this world that really tick me off. They tick me off such that I want to just strangle the person or literally feel my blood boiling. Some of my pet peeves are silly according to my mom but I mean. So a bunch of my pet peeves are not even criminal behavior, yes some of it I feel is … Continue reading My five pet peeves
On so many days one gets so used to the pain, heartache that at the end of the day it seems it is all there is to life. When one gets so used to the pain and hurt, they can never imagine the world any different. Not because it can not be different but because they have gotten used to their view of the world … Continue reading When you are holding on, yet God is saying something else
In 2018, for the first time. I shared a post sharing how I battled with depression, anxiety and suicide ideation. This was years after I had gotten out of the dark hole of depression, anxiety and two suicide attempts. Sharing the story was definitely not one of the easiest things I had to do, but I am glad I did. The feedback I got from … Continue reading September is suicide prevention month
I have seen videos of the main piece confronting the side piece and some sisters of friends recording the ordeal. I have stories of women who the got arrested after these assaults. I have a million questions in my head but then again what do I know, I have never had a husband cheat on me so I probably should not judge these women for … Continue reading It is not her problem but your man’s sis
I thought I was the Miss Independent who was all about taking care of herself, but I had to learn otherwise. I was not Miss Independent but a young girl who had been disappointed by so many people and had people who I expected to pull through not pulling through and at the end of it all I programmed my mind in a certain way. … Continue reading Maybe your extreme independence is coming from a place of hurt
We were in love and even with the distance factor, our relationship seemed to be thriving. I was happy and content even through the fights and misunderstandings. It is weird when I talk about it now and tell people that I was in a relationship with someone who was on a different continent and who I only got to see for only three months out … Continue reading When they move on from you to your friend
They say his way are not our ways and his plans are not our plans, but as humans it is only normal to have some goals and a set plan for one’s life. We can not live this life without a certain picture be it clear or not of how we would want it to turn out. But sadly, it does not always happen according … Continue reading I am not sure how much patience a christian needs to have
According to a report in 2017 in Zimbabwe, 32% of girls are married off before age 18 4% are married before they turn 15. Approximately 1 in 3 girls in Zimbabwe are married before age 18.As I read the article of the 14-year-old girl Memory Machaya who died while giving birth I cringed and at the same time was super annoyed. The article alleged that the … Continue reading #JusticeForMemory: Am I the only one who is PISSED?
I have never had a child and neither have I ever been pregnant, but I have seen the joy that comes with the announcement of a pregnancy for many people. I have seen the joy that comes with one holding their little one for the very first time and every other first that comes is met with just the same joy. From the first time … Continue reading To the babies we never got to hold and the rainbow babies who warm our hearts
Ever had siblings talk differently about their parents. You can have the one who feared their parents and one who will tell you their parents were just sweethearts, and they were best friends. I will not get into the details about the relationship each of my siblings has or had with our parents, but I can tell you that our experience was different. My experience … Continue reading Siblings can experience parents differently
Substance abuse is a worm which has eaten its way into our society destroying so many lives, relationships and dreams. With the pandemic at hand and an economic downturn which seems to be getting worse so many young people in Zimbabwe are turning to substance abuse to numb the pain and the stress that comes with being young in the country. Back in the day … Continue reading When you are not the addict but struggling to stay sane
Every time I say that my parents have a beautiful relationship and I would want to have what they have , a bunch of the comments that come from those listening are pretty negative. There are those who claim that I am only say that because I am on the other side of the fence and have no idea what they went through for the … Continue reading Umjolo: The Pandemic my generation created
I was born on Sunday the first of August 1993 and this year my birthday once again falls on a Sunday, talk about a full circle. With everything that has been happening especially the pandemic at hand, I am grateful to have made it this far. I can testify that indeed, it is not by power nor by might, knowledge, or wisdom but by the … Continue reading Chapter 28 better be kind to me
I remember being curled up in my bed trying to make sense of what was going on around me. It was a fruitless effort as in that moment nothing made any sense. I wanted to think of all the things about you, about us that made me happy, but it seemed they were drowning in the shadow of the pain I was feeling in my … Continue reading My heartbreak anniversary
After the steamy and erotic scenes in almost every episode, we are not shocked the Sarah Shahi (Billy) and Adam Demos (Brad) fell in love while filming the Netflix hit ‘Sex Life’. Inspired by B.B Easton’s self-published memoir ‘’44 Chapters about 4 Men’’ the limited series took social media by storm and even became a catalyst getting Easton’s memoir sitting pretty on number 1 on … Continue reading Sex Life has me confused: Is the goal marriage or happiness?
I got a visit from the red devil (my period) just a few days before starting high school and I was 12. We were having a prayer meeting at my parent’s house and I felt my panties getting a little too moist , so the girl had to go to the bathroom only to find her panties soiled. For a minute I sat on the … Continue reading I had the worst period talk
The sun sets in the West, promising a brighter tomorrow I toss and turn with thoughts in my head failing to close my eyelids The birds are singing and the rays of the sun pierce through the veil on my window promising a brighter day I lie on my back gazing on the ceiling hoping to find answers and solutions somewhere This is not the … Continue reading On some days I am just tired
The phrase history repeats itself is true when it comes to fashion. There are some outfits and fashion accessories that have been worn since the start of the new millennium which were worn in the 80’s or even way before that. The fashion was slightly revamped but the ideas definitely go back in time. The 80’s were characterized with the neon and super bold colors, … Continue reading WinterABC Day16 : The 80’s are back baby
First day of the Fashion week and what better way to start it that try clear the air on whether boyfriend jeans and mom jeans. At some point in my life I thought that these retro styles were the same just different names but we learn everyday. I am sure many are aware of the skinny, regular and slim fit. Mom jeans and boyfriend jeans … Continue reading WinterABC Day15: Are mom jeans & boyfriend jeans the same?
Ever bumped into a ”what I ordered versus what I got ” picture on social media? Some of the pictures are rather exaggerated and all but best believe sometimes one does not always get what they ordered. This has been the case for me after ordering a few things on line. What sucks about online shopping is that one does not get to see or … Continue reading WinterABC Day13: I’m still skeptical of online shopping
Pineapple Creative Studio I love dance and fitness and with Pineapple Creative Studio I get to have a service provider who is offering both in one stable. You get to pick the service you want . Pineapple Creative Studio offers exclusive dance and fitness classes. At first it was all for women but then a few men joined the band wagon. I was there from … Continue reading WinterABC Day12: Five local businesses whose services are worth your buck
I never thought that we would still be talking about the novel Corona virus, a year later since it was first discovered in China. I actually was part of the crowd that for a moment thought that the pandemic was really not going to hit Africa but here we are with figures not as high as our European and Asian counterparts but the whole world … Continue reading WinterABC Day11: Technology & doing business with a pandemic at hand
Ever wanted to buy something or even attend a seminar or conference, but after interaction with the service provider you are like ‘’I will pass.’’ Such is the norm with so many local service providers who have a product to die for, but their customer service makes you reconsider if you really want the product that bad. Many Zimbabwean companies are yet to master the … Continue reading WinterABC Day10:Of amazing products and crappy customer service
At some point in my life last year, I was reconsidering my career path and these sentiments had nothing to do with how much I make monthly or annually but rather more of the experience. As today is the last day of the advocacy week of the WinterABC Challenge why not share on another topic that is again close to my heart. Journalism is a … Continue reading WinterABC Day9 : Journalism is not a crime
If I am to be a mother at some point my only worry is being either obsessive or overprotective of my children. I used to hear and read stories of child brides and child prostitution till I saw it with my own eyes. To say I was disturbed is an understatement as the stories I heard and what I saw will forever be with me. … Continue reading WinterABC Day 8: Stop undressing our girls
I will really try to not let my feelings get the best of me as this is a topic that makes me cringe, want to throw up and at the same time it just drains my god damn energy. I usually walk away from the debates on the issue as in a way, it shows the prevalence of rape culture where I come from and … Continue reading WinterABC Day 7: Clothes ain’t got nothing to do with rape, but the rapist.
It is the second day of the advocacy week, and I am super excited to share my advocacy pieces on mental health. After going through depression and anxiety without knowing what it was, I always make it a point to let people in on my experience and help them understand that it is possible to get out of that dark space and hoping to get … Continue reading WinterABC Day 6: Why we need therapists in schools
A decade ago, I tried to take my own life but only talked about it for the very first time in a blog post I published in 2018. Despite talking to the people who read my blog post and once having an Instagram live talking about it, it has been over a decade since it happened but we have never had the conversation as a … Continue reading WinterABC Day5 : Ten years later we still haven’t about talked suicide
Where I come from those in power are afraid of two things, the voice of the citizens and the pen. Why these scare them I will never know but clearly, they are aware of their sins and know that the pain and the citizens will be their fall one day. Hence over the years and worse during the wake of the pandemic many journalists have … Continue reading WinterABC Day4: Local creatives using satire and for activism
I have always been the girl who dances a lot if there is good music playing, I mean I do not let a good track go to waste. I have always been passionate about dance even a young kid but never thought of making any money from it till the day I met a lady who is now one of my closest friends. I met … Continue reading WinterABC Day 2: My experience in the dance industry
A pinch and a punch for a new month to you, my loves. Wherever you are, I hope you are keeping safe and not acting like the rona is now just a ghost, so continue taking care of yourself and your loved ones. Today marks the first day of the Afrobloggers 2021 WinterABC challenge which is rather taking a different route this year. For the … Continue reading WinterABC 2021 Day 1: The Zim telecoms sector does not do much for the online content creators
I remember the day I got the visit from the red devil the very first time, and I hope to make it a bit glamorous for my baby girl when I finally have daughters. It is such a sacred experience but again for many women it can be quite the experience and it surely takes an understanding partner to help you through those few days. … Continue reading How to make her period better
I find myself smiling on my own as my mind wanders into space and all I can see is your perfectly carved face which your maker took so much time to fix. The day I met you will forever be one of the days that I will forever cherish as the moment you walked up to me and smiling like an idiot, my whole world … Continue reading A letter to mwana wa Amwene
We are not about to preach some self-love gospel so you can come join the club as we have known what self-love the day is we came to this earth. We somehow then lost the plot and with all the pain and deceit in the world we thought we were not good enough. The world gave us some new kind of education and told us … Continue reading To the girls who are said to have a problem
I am glad that when it comes to you, I have no choice because on my good and my bad days, you are still my mother. You are my only option, and I will never have it any other way. The Creator knew that even as my guardian angel was watching over me all the time, it would not be able to physically hold my … Continue reading A letter to Amai
As you read this post, please bear in mind that at some point in my life I was the anxious young girl who knew that she had obviously failed her math exam and was not even ready for the women at church asking her or her mother if she had done well in her exams. Now that I am grown, I look back and I … Continue reading Some Zim homes are tense because of the results. #SMH
May I never be one of the people to say that money does not bring me happiness, I mean even the bible says money answereth all problems. I am not so sure if it is because of the poverty datum line (something I am still trying to understand) or some sort of effects of socialisation but where I come from dating or marrying rich is … Continue reading Normalise dating & marrying rich
Although kinda got up to a shitty start, I must say there have been some good days and some bad days. After taking part in my friend’s No excuses 21 day challenge I challenged myself to continue with eating healthy and most importantly keeping fit. Coach Pineapple always made it a point to emphasize that one does the workouts at their own pace and they … Continue reading My first ever triathlon: The girl conquered
Ever read the story,” Jesus calms the storm’’? I have read it and heard different sermons and have seen different paintings also. I have had this picture of the incident in my head the past few days as I was listening to Be still by Travis Greene. I imagined that maybe the storm started not as vicious and as the seconds went by it finally … Continue reading When the noise is over
Truly God is gracious, and I can brag that I have an amazing support system. So last year I was nominated for the Zim Blog Awards under the ‘Personal Blog category and guess what I did not make it. In a way I was touched but knew that ever after catching an L we move. In my father’s language they say ‘’misi haifanane’’ which directly … Continue reading ANNOUNCEMENT: I am an award-winning blogger