Mental health

Life after a suicide attempt

Life had taken a drastic turn with me steering it of course but I do not think that after attempting to take my own life I was ready for what was to come next. Like I shared in the very first blog post where I shared my story, I really wanted to talk about it… Continue reading Life after a suicide attempt

relationships, life,

Don’t just break up with him, break the pattern

So, you have broken up with him and as much as it hurts you feel you deserved better and walking away was you respecting and loving yourself, well done boo. Now you are a prominent member of the singletons club but still willing to dive back into the waters but you scared what happened in… Continue reading Don’t just break up with him, break the pattern

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My experience with the Wired 2 Love and Thrive tribe

Over the past few years, I have been drawn to mental health issues as it is something that is out there and something I personally experienced. I shared my attempted suicide story for the very first time on my blog some two years back. The idea was to help me heal, forgive myself and move… Continue reading My experience with the Wired 2 Love and Thrive tribe

God ,relationships , life, My COVID-19 journal

Lessons from the pandemic: You are the church

The pandemic came and now we are still learning how to live with it. It disrupted our way of life and religion was not left out as gatherings in places of worship were banned in most countries. Where I come from this was then changed and people can now meet in their places of worship… Continue reading Lessons from the pandemic: You are the church

My COVID-19 journal

Mourning and grief with the pandemic at hand

Whoever thought in Zimbabwe we would have families burying their loved ones after 24 hours and one would need a letter to go to a funeral. With ''Rona'' on our backs we have to adjust to a lot of things and the new norm is somehow a nightmare in certain aspects. I lost my other… Continue reading Mourning and grief with the pandemic at hand

My COVID-19 journal

Ideas on celebrations under lock-down

It started off in China and not in a day did we ever think that the pandemic would soon be upon us. In Zimbabwe the first recorded case of Covid-19 was recorded in March this year and before we even knew it the country was on lock-down. This meant restricted movement and we could not… Continue reading Ideas on celebrations under lock-down

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Why financial literacy is important

Financial literacy is not a luxury, but a necessity and one of the very important lessons many need to grasp so they can pass them to the younger generations who will later pass on and on as the cycle continues. While many view the world of finance as intimidating with all the terms which sound… Continue reading Why financial literacy is important

God ,relationships , life

Four reasons why you do not own your relationship

Relationships are a great part of the human life and as much as the dynamics are different I believe there are certain aspects that should never be overlooked. In today's blog post I will focus on the boyfriend and girlfriend type of relationship and the dynamics surrounding it. I know the title probably made you… Continue reading Four reasons why you do not own your relationship

Fascinating womanhood

The hate you give: Inheriting your friend’s beef

Many will go all the way 100 to show or prove their loyalty and this has given rise to the trend known as inheriting beef. Inheriting beef is guided by a commandment from some friendship code published God knows where which states that ''my friend's enemy is my enemy.'' So if your friend is not… Continue reading The hate you give: Inheriting your friend’s beef

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Of supporting local businesses and bad customer services in Zimbabwe

Not a day passes without tweets and pictures and hashtags to do with supporting local businesses and supporting our friends. This is a good movement as we do not support local businesses then who do we expect to do that for us. As much as people can preach and spread this gospel of supporting local… Continue reading Of supporting local businesses and bad customer services in Zimbabwe

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I survived a Hollywood wax, next stop child birth

I have always dreaded going for a wax and I blame it all on the movies and how they make it so graphic with a grown man screaming like they just got stabbed in the tummy. Those pictures are what always came to mind every single time I thought of getting a wax. Years have… Continue reading I survived a Hollywood wax, next stop child birth

politics, change, life

Oh cursed is the tree Mbuya Nehanda was hanging from

The stories of the armed struggle and the transition from Rhodesia to Zimbabwe are forever spoken of with so much emotionEven for a bunch of us tagged ''born frees'' tears and feelings of pain surface when we read books of the atrocities by the Smith regime. The inhuman things that our ancestors were put through… Continue reading Oh cursed is the tree Mbuya Nehanda was hanging from

Zimbabwean Lives Matter

Being Zimbabwean: I am TIRED!!!!

There are days when I wake up and I can not stand social media. Not because of the trolls or the pressure that comes from the cute couples and the young people buying cars and all but because it is just a sad place. One day you wake up to the news of abducted people,… Continue reading Being Zimbabwean: I am TIRED!!!!

My COVID-19 journal

Being your best parent and work version during lockdown

With most company offices of non-essential service providers closed down or opening for a few employees a number of people have been working from home and this comes with its challenges. Working from home is a totally different set-up from the office and one is prone to so many destructions as you are trying to… Continue reading Being your best parent and work version during lockdown

AskYourMCm

#AskYourMcm : Should she change to your last name?

Our names carry with them our identity and for some they also tell a certain story. When I was younger I never understood the women who would mention two last names when they were introducing themselves. I finally learnt that they had what is called a double barrel surname. Some believe that marriage confirms oneness… Continue reading #AskYourMcm : Should she change to your last name?

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The crime we never committed: Being a journalist in Zimbabwe

With all the madness and chaos happening in Zimbabwe, I am starting to think that maybe I chose the wrong profession. What really drove me to pursue a career in the media fraternity when I could have just been smiling at the camera wearing clothes made someone, make-up done by someone else, the lights and… Continue reading The crime we never committed: Being a journalist in Zimbabwe

AskYourMCm

#AskYourMcm : Is your partner allowed friends of the opposite sex?

The debate on whether one should have friends of the opposite sex is a topic that we will talk about even when we have our own kids and they will be seeking advise on it from us. Opinions on this topic differ but I must say many people are okay with having friends of the… Continue reading #AskYourMcm : Is your partner allowed friends of the opposite sex?

My COVID-19 journal

After 108 days of the Lock-down i’m still sane

So the ''rona'' which started in China in the Wuhan province in December 2019 is till doing the rounds and according to experts it is here to stay. Or maybe it will finally tire and leave but I don't know when that will be. So in Zimbabwe we started off with the Level 5 lockdown… Continue reading After 108 days of the Lock-down i’m still sane

Hot Stuff

Izinto zama ”entanglements” and the Red Table

I know they say that sex and scandal sells but I was shocked as to how much people all over the world invested their time and attention to Jada and Will Smith's Red Table Talk. The Facebook Watch original series hit a record 15 million views in 24 hours and now sits on over 30… Continue reading Izinto zama ”entanglements” and the Red Table

#WCW: Fascinating womanhood

A couple of letters to the exes

Many relationships ended and despite having a lot to say or wanting to say a whole lotta things somehow it all goes unsaid. Some of it does not necessarily go unsaid but after the relationship in the middle of healing, moving on and closure there are certain elements which can come to play and some… Continue reading A couple of letters to the exes

My COVID-19 journal

I choose to celebrate even the small victories

With the pandemic at hand so much has been disrupted but not everything has been lost and we still have hope that the storm will pass and the sun will shine probably with a rainbow and some unicorns at the end. I know on social media we have the hashtag #Chooseday trending on a Tuesday… Continue reading I choose to celebrate even the small victories

AfroBloggers WinterAbc Challenge

Day 16: I don’t know if I should be grateful or happy

Today's blog post is a topic that I am sure almost every single person who will go through this blog has experienced : LOSS/GRIEF.I don't even know how many messages of people losing their loved ones I received this year and what's worse is the idea of mourning with a pandemic at hand considering our… Continue reading Day 16: I don’t know if I should be grateful or happy

AfroBloggers WinterAbc Challenge

Day 15 : I can talk about mental health everyday

Today's blog post is probably the one that I enjoyed writing about the most , although yes I did enjoy reading all of the other posts. It's been an uphill climb trying to be consistent and keep up with the challenge but here we are on day 15 and the challenge is to write on… Continue reading Day 15 : I can talk about mental health everyday

AfroBloggers WinterAbc Challenge

Day 14 : The new bride has some duties

When I first went through the topic list for the WinterABC challenge and saw the topic " Share about one cultural aspect from your country or community" , the first thing that came to my mind was lobola / roora (bride price). I remembered I have written a few posts on the topic and maybe… Continue reading Day 14 : The new bride has some duties

AfroBloggers WinterAbc Challenge

Day 13 : I really want to meet Gayton McKenzie

I had no idea who Gayton McKenzie was till I stole a book from my brother's house, "The Hustler's Bible" and I must say it was an eye opener and reading a success story which was closer to home made quite the difference as it was someone telling the African story and I could relate.… Continue reading Day 13 : I really want to meet Gayton McKenzie

AfroBloggers WinterAbc Challenge

Day 11 : Proverbs my Khulu taught me

When I first read through the list of topics that we have for the Afrobloggers WinterAbc Challenge, in my head I told myself that would probably be one of the easiest topics of the challenge. But here I am trying to decide which of the proverbs I have heard and learnt would help me share… Continue reading Day 11 : Proverbs my Khulu taught me

AfroBloggers WinterAbc Challenge

Day 10 : Scotch the brand ambassador

When one is a brand ambassador, in layman terms, they are the ''face'' of the brand. We can not talk about the Dark and Lovely Hair care line and not talk about Kelly Rowland. So being brand ambassador means making use of your already established networks and relationships to market the brand. This could be… Continue reading Day 10 : Scotch the brand ambassador

AfroBloggers WinterAbc Challenge

Day 9 : Four social media accounts I follow

Over the years we have moved from Mixit, BBM and just Facebook to a number of other social media platforms. With the pandemic at hand , we find ourselves at home and being on social media for quite some time. There are times when I just find myself simply scrolling down on social media hitting… Continue reading Day 9 : Four social media accounts I follow

AfroBloggers WinterAbc Challenge

Day 8 : Three things African content creators can avoid

Not developing your own style or voice So many times we complain about not having the African story being told yet we have the opportunity to tell our stories to the world every single time we sit down to type something on our laptops. One should not write the way a certain blogger writes but… Continue reading Day 8 : Three things African content creators can avoid

AfroBloggers WinterAbc Challenge, My COVID-19 journal

Day 7 : Something about the bloggers from where I come from

When I started blogging, it was because a friend of mine had told me about it and I had found an outlet. I did not even know that there were so many Zimbabwean bloggers within the blogging community till I started scrolling on WordPress and I found different types of bloggers. The ones who blog… Continue reading Day 7 : Something about the bloggers from where I come from

AfroBloggers WinterAbc Challenge, My COVID-19 journal

Day 6 : Zimbabwean Twitter is not for the faint-hearted

Today is Day 6 of the Afrobloggers WinterAbc Challenge and I must say today’s topic which sounded rather easy has made me think about social media in a different light. Social media has done the world so much good and at the same time it has also been able to destroy a number of lives… Continue reading Day 6 : Zimbabwean Twitter is not for the faint-hearted

30 Things You Need To Change Challenge, My COVID-19 journal

An attitude of gratitude keeps you sane.

Today is Day 8 of the 30 Things You Need To Change and today’s topic is GRATITUDE In a world where everything simply seems to be going wrong, with wars and pandemics disrupting the world as we once knew it, you might just find everything wrong. It is then hard to find a reason to… Continue reading An attitude of gratitude keeps you sane.

30 Things You Need To Change Challenge, My COVID-19 journal, Uncategorized

Day 5 I really need to start spoiling the body that works

Today is day 5 of the 30 THINGS YOU NEED TO CHANGE BLOGGING CHALLENGE. I missed the other four days of the challenge but I have decided to commit today and will be here till day 30. This challenge is something I really need as it also in a way is a self-introspection journey.I can… Continue reading Day 5 I really need to start spoiling the body that works

AfroBloggers WinterAbc Challenge, My COVID-19 journal

Day 3: My favorite local food

I was scratching my head and trying to figure out which local delicacy I actually fancy and now I was out here trying to figure out if the meals I love are actually local food. After figuring out and convincing myself that it was indeed local delicacy I then had to find English names so… Continue reading Day 3: My favorite local food

AfroBloggers WinterAbc Challenge, My COVID-19 journal

Day 2: Do we blog for fun or there is an end goal

When I started blogging it was an outlet for my dear soul which struggles to share or show emotions. It was also a way of dealing with my own demons and gosh forgive me but the consistency never happened but I am glad when I did write and post on my blog ,I would share… Continue reading Day 2: Do we blog for fun or there is an end goal

AfroBloggers WinterAbc Challenge, My COVID-19 journal

Day 1 : The Introduction Pledge

I promise that I will do my best to do my duty to God. To serve my country and other people to keep the girl guide/brownie law. I remember making this pledge as a little girl in a brown uniform and gosh was I super excited. The journey was however fun and at the same… Continue reading Day 1 : The Introduction Pledge

God ,relationships , life, My COVID-19 journal

Losing a loved one to suicide (2)

On the last post we shared how the bereavement process after losing someone to suicide is challenging as it is so sudden and people are left hurt with so many questions. In our society there is so much superstition surrounding suicide that the bereaved do not even know who turn to for help. Here are… Continue reading Losing a loved one to suicide (2)

AskYourMCm, Hot Stuff

#AskYourMcm: Elongation of the labia minora from a man’s perspective

Saying the term in my vernacular sends shivers down my spine as I feel I am shouting out the worst profanity in the world. There has always been a debate whether the practice of the elongation of the labia minora is regarded as female genital mutilation (FGM). Wether it's female genital mutilation or not is… Continue reading #AskYourMcm: Elongation of the labia minora from a man’s perspective