At some point in my life last year, I was reconsidering my career path and these sentiments had nothing to do with how much I make monthly or annually but rather more of the experience. As today is the last day of the advocacy week of the WinterABC Challenge why not share on another topic that is again close to my heart. Journalism is a … Continue reading WinterABC Day9 : Journalism is not a crime
If I am to be a mother at some point my only worry is being either obsessive or overprotective of my children. I used to hear and read stories of child brides and child prostitution till I saw it with my own eyes. To say I was disturbed is an understatement as the stories I heard and what I saw will forever be with me. … Continue reading WinterABC Day 8: Stop undressing our girls
I will really try to not let my feelings get the best of me as this is a topic that makes me cringe, want to throw up and at the same time it just drains my god damn energy. I usually walk away from the debates on the issue as in a way, it shows the prevalence of rape culture where I come from and … Continue reading WinterABC Day 7: Clothes ain’t got nothing to do with rape, but the rapist.
It is the second day of the advocacy week, and I am super excited to share my advocacy pieces on mental health. After going through depression and anxiety without knowing what it was, I always make it a point to let people in on my experience and help them understand that it is possible to get out of that dark space and hoping to get … Continue reading WinterABC Day 6: Why we need therapists in schools
A decade ago, I tried to take my own life but only talked about it for the very first time in a blog post I published in 2018. Despite talking to the people who read my blog post and once having an Instagram live talking about it, it has been over a decade since it happened but we have never had the conversation as a … Continue reading WinterABC Day5 : Ten years later we still haven’t talked suicide
Where I come from those in power are afraid of two things, the voice of the citizens and the pen. Why these scare them I will never know but clearly, they are aware of their sins and know that the pain and the citizens will be their fall one day. Hence over the years and worse during the wake of the pandemic many journalists have … Continue reading WinterABC Day4: Local creatives using satire and for activism
I have always been the girl who dances a lot if there is good music playing, I mean I do not let a good track go to waste. I have always been passionate about dance even a young kid but never thought of making any money from it till the day I met a lady who is now one of my closest friends. I met … Continue reading WinterABC Day 2: My experience in the dance industry
A pinch and a punch for a new month to you, my loves. Wherever you are, I hope you are keeping safe and not acting like the rona is now just a ghost, so continue taking care of yourself and your loved ones. Today marks the first day of the Afrobloggers 2021 WinterABC challenge which is rather taking a different route this year. For the … Continue reading WinterABC 2021 Day 1: The Zim telecoms sector does not do much for the online content creators
I remember the day I got the visit from the red devil the very first time, and I hope to make it a bit glamorous for my baby girl when I finally have daughters. It is such a sacred experience but again for many women it can be quite the experience and it surely takes an understanding partner to help you through those few days. … Continue reading How to make her period better
I find myself smiling on my own as my mind wanders into space and all I can see is your perfectly carved face which your maker took so much time to fix. The day I met you will forever be one of the days that I will forever cherish as the moment you walked up to me and smiling like an idiot, my whole world … Continue reading A letter to mwana wa Amwene
We are not about to preach some self-love gospel so you can come join the club as we have known what self-love the day is we came to this earth. We somehow then lost the plot and with all the pain and deceit in the world we thought we were not good enough. The world gave us some new kind of education and told us … Continue reading To the girls who are said to have a problem
I am glad that when it comes to you, I have no choice because on my good and my bad days, you are still my mother. You are my only option, and I will never have it any other way. The Creator knew that even as my guardian angel was watching over me all the time, it would not be able to physically hold my … Continue reading A letter to Amai
As you read this post, please bear in mind that at some point in my life I was the anxious young girl who knew that she had obviously failed her math exam and was not even ready for the women at church asking her or her mother if she had done well in her exams. Now that I am grown, I look back and I … Continue reading Some Zim homes are tense because of the results. #SMH
May I never be one of the people to say that money does not bring me happiness, I mean even the bible says money answereth all problems. I am not so sure if it is because of the poverty datum line (something I am still trying to understand) or some sort of effects of socialisation but where I come from dating or marrying rich is … Continue reading Normalise dating & marrying rich
Although kinda got up to a shitty start, I must say there have been some good days and some bad days. After taking part in my friend’s No excuses 21 day challenge I challenged myself to continue with eating healthy and most importantly keeping fit. Coach Pineapple always made it a point to emphasize that one does the workouts at their own pace and they … Continue reading My first ever triathlon: The girl conquered
Ever read the story,” Jesus calms the storm’’? I have read it and heard different sermons and have seen different paintings also. I have had this picture of the incident in my head the past few days as I was listening to Be still by Travis Greene. I imagined that maybe the storm started not as vicious and as the seconds went by it finally … Continue reading When the noise is over
Truly God is gracious, and I can brag that I have an amazing support system. So last year I was nominated for the Zim Blog Awards under the ‘Personal Blog category and guess what I did not make it. In a way I was touched but knew that ever after catching an L we move. In my father’s language they say ‘’misi haifanane’’ which directly … Continue reading ANNOUNCEMENT: I am an award-winning blogger
As the sun’s beautiful rays peep through the window, the birds chirp happily sounding a promise of a new and brighter day. I am grateful to be alive, yet at the same time I want to go away but God knows where. I want to go to a place where I am happy, at peace and ready to take on the challenges that come each … Continue reading I want to forget there was ever an ‘’US’’
I still remember the 28th of October 2020 like it was just yesterday. What I thought would be just like any other day in my life turned out to be a traumatic experience which I would never wish on anyone. I wrote a blog post of my experience with thieves one October morning and I can testify that fear is not a good feeling. I … Continue reading These robberies & break-ins are getting out of hand
It has been a hectic few weeks so I had to take a break from writing and focus on the stuff that was happening in my life. Will probably do another blog post on what has been going on in my life when I finally have the strength to share about it. Back to the story of the day, it has been a whole solid … Continue reading 365 days after moving out
She was breathing heavy and was sweating like she had just finished a high intensity workout. She had been through a horrible ordeal and her world as she knew it had taken an unexpected turn. Words could have never been enough to explain as no woman or man would want to go through such an experience. She had heard stories of many women’s experiences and … Continue reading I woke up to a stranger in my house
I have no experience being a parent and not planning to embark on that journey anytime soon but what I do have experience of is being a child. Born in a family of five, I am the almost last child who according to people was a favourite till my little brother came along ten years later. When he came along my siblings were all grown … Continue reading To those still trying to get over not being the favourite child
I am probably the last person to be dishing out relationship advice but through all the relationship drama and the few decades I have been on this earth I can say that be it you are in the singletons club or you are whipped, and your head is in cloud 9, self-love is an important thing. Self-love is important as if you know your worth … Continue reading Speak the love languages to yourself.
The storm seems to be rising and with each violent wave I have no hope for a rainbow. The days seems darker everyday and I can not tell the difference between dusk and dawn. On some days all I cared about was the fact that at least I was breathing and had life in my veins. This used to keep me going and I had … Continue reading We look to you
I am always left with a smirk on my face when someone asks me where I grew up, as due to the nature of my parents job we stayed in a place for sometime and moved. Despite the regular moving from place to place or city to city, I still reminisce and all the experiences of my childhood and on some days I do wish … Continue reading My childhood memories have turned to dust
I remember seeing my dad crying on his mother funeral when I was 10 but on so many funerals I have seen man go about their business like nothing is going on and they are just okay. I do not blame them as the society they grew up and were raised has promoted a syndrome I call ”fear of tears”. As boys they are taught … Continue reading #AskYourMcm: What did they tell you about men/boys & and crying?
There is this saying where I come from where the elderly talk about how everyone faces challenges and if one is to sit down and listen to everyone else’s challenges and experiences, you will realize that we are all fighting different battles and some actually have it harder and worse. After all the drama, pain, good music and a battle with diabetes Zim dancehall chanter … Continue reading Life and all its unfairness: Life of Souljah Love
As the president announced an extension to the lockdown although I was not surprised I was just hoping for some good news. With 2922 active cases of Covid19 the country is still under lockdown for the nest two weeks. I can not emphasize enough how I miss just being around some familiar faces, talking about random things and getting home after the sun has set. … Continue reading Lockdown extension : The battle of keeping sane
It was Valentine’s weekend and despite being on lockdown I know so many people went all out to celebrate love with their people while some of us were home straight chilling and ensuring we know what we gotta do on Monday. As usual my fellow countrymen do not disappoint, memes and Tick Tock videos came in all day. It would have been lovely spending the … Continue reading I want the you and me type of love
I know so many people in my circle who are less likely to seek therapy or even just try it because they simply believe that it is some white people stuff. You would think that after watching Insecure and Lisa going for therapy I would be able to get my people to consider therapy at some point in their lives. Issues to do with mental … Continue reading Hear me, therapy is not some white people sh*t
Before I read the acknowledgement, foreword and reviews (something I usually do before I buy or read or download a book) I simply was taken by the title and the black cover. Silly I know but well I am just being honest about what drew me to the book. I asked a friend of mine what she thought about the book and she mentioned that … Continue reading The Capitalist Nigger turned me into a racist
There is darkness in my head, I do see the light. Somewhere between the truth and the lies, Somewhere between the good days and the bad If there is anything called a spirit then maybe, it’s all that keeps me alive because this girl is stuck. Stuck in the darkness in her head, and her limps somehow do not see the reason to have to … Continue reading There is darkness in my head
While the whole world is working on finding ways and solutions to curb Covid19, Zimbabweans are celebrating the deaths of those who are succumbing to the virus. I really thought it inhuman for people to be making memes and mocking the dad but then I realized that the people are tired and the death of some of these people give them some short term gratification … Continue reading My fellow country men are celebrating Covid19 related deaths
With the debate of whether the white wedding is something that my people should continue as it came with the colonizers, I have become to question so many other things. The issue of the ”traditional African wedding” and the white wedding is a post for another day. I have seen a number of married men who walk around without their wedding bands on their fingers … Continue reading #AskYourMCM: Is the wedding band of any significance?
I looked at you with no sign of hatred in my eyes because my heart still beats for you. I froze and still am numb not sure how or what to feel because it feels like yet another disappointment from another male specie of the human race who claimed he loved me. I have run out of sad songs to listen to as none of … Continue reading Please do not say you love me.
Imagine not muting group notifications on WhatsApp and only to be woken up by your phone continuously beeping and vibrating and you are even scared something is wrong with someone on your contact list. Only to wake up and find out that you have been added to a family group. As if being in your immediate family WhatsApp group now imagine being in the extended one … Continue reading Of dysfunctional families and family WhatsApp groups
With most company offices of non-essential service providers closed down , a number of people have been working from home and this comes with its challenges. With a second lockdown enforced just as people got into the new year and were getting ready to go back to work and school some adjustments ought to be done. Working from home is a totally different set-up from … Continue reading Being your best parent and work version during lockdown
A serious relationship is not that easy to come by nowadays so when one does it is no shocker some run to the best traditional healer to get a charm to make sure their partner does not leave them but rather cleaves to them like a suckling to the mother’s boob. Some do not believe in such but have their guard up all the time … Continue reading To the girls marking their territory one lipstick at time
While the lady is busy sipping on some sauvignon blanc and replaying some sad love songs and dancing to Ciara’s ‘’I bet’’, the brother is usually already on top of someone or rather working on getting on top of someone. Many women view the break-up as the beginning of another psychological problem where one needs to figure out what went wrong or what could have … Continue reading Men and society are not ready to receive the same pain they put women through
I had to turn off my twitter notifications for a day or two because the conversation on consent, sleepovers and rape was just triggering and I realized I was getting super worked up about it. A fellow blogger recently wrote an article and mentioned that ‘’woman’’ seems to be a trigger word now. First it was the posts about the 18-year-old from Bulawayo who was … Continue reading We do not care you were raped, what were you doing at his house sis?
As I did every day, I cleaned the house took a shower and was ready to leave my house and decided to say a short prayer to the Almighty before I left. If I had known the fate that awaited me just outside the walls I have grown to call home, I was probably going to call in sick and stayed at home and would … Continue reading Tango with the devil: I danced with death
There were days when I thought the pain would not stop While coughing some blood with pain in my chest I asked you to stop This was probably the 10th time you had hit me and again I was on floor In my little head I was praying you get tired and just go They look at my kids and wish they could save them … Continue reading There’s nothing left to break
I am a firm believer that everything happens gradually. Look at how erosion or weathering takes forever till its effects are easily visible to the naked eye. In my last post we discussed the effects of childhood trauma on our adult relationships. The sad part is that it usually affects our relationship negatively without us even noticing. At times we do notice but choose to … Continue reading Healing from childhood trauma is hard but possible
I saw someone I love lying on a hospital bed with a fractured rib and a cracked lip. She was in pain and all this had been caused by someone the one she loved and had sworn to love and protect her. I was not shocked to find out that it was not the first time she had been beaten. The only difference was that … Continue reading 16 Days of activism against gender-based violence: Better half turned abuser.
DISCLAIMER: Some of the views in this post have been researched by psychologists but the majority are my personal views. They say if you do not deal with your childhood trauma, your romantic relationships will. As much as it is a bitter pill to swallow, childhood traumas do affect one’s relationships one way or the other and sadly usually the effects are negative. Shoving one’s … Continue reading How childhood trauma can affect your adult relationships
Many have probably heard this word but never explored what it really means and even the effects of the notion of black tax. I feel that this topic is as important as it is sensitive as these are some of the issues we need to confront as far as financial literacy is concerned. Look, we all are in the struggle of the journey to the … Continue reading Black tax is surely taxing
Lately I have been thinking about my death and I wonder I wonder if I can ask, he who made me and ensure that, although the day I came to this earth I made a loud announcement as the midwife held me Although I was crying, the sound gave my mother so much joy and comfort and she cried as she held me close to … Continue reading Lately I have been thinking about my death and I wonder
You were never supposed to mean so much to me. I mean, I was never supposed to fall so hard. But guess what. I did and that is what kept me holding on because I could not imagine letting you go. I did not have to just let you go, but I had to chose to forget you. I had to forget someone who made … Continue reading A letter to the one I chose to forget
They say it is hard to find some real ones in this world, but in you I found a best friend and brother. It is weird how we turned out to be a crazy duo after I met you while choreographing your friend’s wedding. Since that day you have acted more of a brother than a friend and maybe I do not say it as … Continue reading A letter to the man that gives me hope
I have been dreading to write this post because then some will think that we only got negative things to say about the other gender. Please do not get me wrong as I have written some really nice things about men in this #DearJohn series. However, as this series is also to just educate the other gender who I hope will also do a #DearJane … Continue reading A letter to the wolf in sheep’s clothing